7 Sacred ways to honour the loved ones you miss this Christmas
“Christmas can be one of those times of the year that can be awkward for grieving families. Do we talk about it? I don’t want to upset people more than they already are? What do we do to recognise we still love them, miss them and they are still a part of our family.”
Grief is one of those emotions that always seems to be present, only with a volume dial that has it turned up louder some days more than others. As Christmas rolls around it gets a little harder to push that pain away and just get on with it especially more so if this is your first Christmas without your loved one.
I say, let’s not push it aside. In fact after more than twenty years of supporting others with their grief as a medium and from my own personal experience, I know that it is when we share our grief experience with those we love that we find a little respite, a little healing and a little peace finds its way into our heart because we helped another.
Christmas can be one of those times of the year that can be awkward for grieving families. Do we talk about it? I don’t want to upset people more than they already are? What do we do to recognise we still love them, miss them and they are still a part of our family.
My heart says that it is in sharing and coming together as a family united in your grief that the opportunity for peace exists. It is actually in the unspoken truth that darkness resides.
Here I am offering you 7 Sacred ways to cherish your loved ones this Christmas, that will ease the way for you and inspire a little togetherness. You may even find they spark the joy of celebrating your loved one and all that they mean to you and your family.
- Find it within your heart to be brave and honour how you feel by voicing it and communicating it with others. In doing so, you give them permission to share how they feel thus opening the door to communicating and gathering closer as you walk the journey together.
2. Light a candle and place some special momentos or photos alongside of it. Candles are the symbol for eternal life and your loved ones do recognise these moments.
3. Create a music playlist of their favourite songs and bands to play during your Christmas events. It will spark memories of happy times that can be shared.
4. By all means visit the cemetery if that does bring you some peace and you feel like it is needed. However, it is also important to know that it is totally Ok if it is something that you prefer not to do.
I personally find that visiting the cemetery for my brother or my former husband does not bring me peace. Instead, it take me right back to the traumatic events surrounding their passings and that is something I can well do without. So I rarely visit the cemetery choosing instead to be in the present and honour connections I have with them now.
This is different for everyone, so please know it is a matter of doing what you feel is right for you.
5. Get together with others who are also missing your loved one and spend some time doing what your loved one used to enjoy. Perhaps it’s a round of golf, a day out shopping with the girls, watching their favourite movie or as my kids do, they will have a bet on a horse for their Dad.
6. Get out the old photos and take a walk down memory lane. It is O’k to cry. It is O’k to miss them and be sad. Remember, it is because you love them that it hurts. Those times are true blessings of love now and times that the memories of will serve you well when you treasure them closely.
7. Have fun and incorporate your loved ones into your family celebrations.
- Hang a meaningful Christmas decoration in their honour on the tree. This especially works well for honouring your pets.
- Make a Christmas donation in their honour.
- Put out a plate for them at the lunch table complete with the obligatory glass of wine or beer (if relevant of course).
Taking moments like these to honour those you have loved and tossed will not only go a long way to easing the emotion of your grief. You will also be sending big signals to heaven and believe me, they will be watching. So be sure to look out for their response and acknowledgements by way of external signs, Spirit communications, dream visitations and feeling their presence with you.
This will be their way of saying “I love you too!”
Hi, I’m Kerrie Wearing and I am a Spiritual Leader and mentor in Feminine Spirit Mediumship.
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