Hey there, I see my article headline got your attention. I know this means that you are likely to often experience your energy being drained because of your interactions with others. Am I right? I am here to tell you that this is absolutely something that can be changed, but first I want to give it to you straight.

I hate with a passion the term ‘psychic vampires’. I find it disrespectful to other people and it essentially apportions blame onto others when managing your soul’s energy is ultimately your responsibility.

Years ago I had a stall at a local mind, body and soul expo where I found myself located next to another psychic who I didn’t know apart from polite greetings. At the start of the second day she went around to all of the stallholders offering them an Angel card. A measure of good will you would think. I accepted that Angel card and within half an hour my energy had been completely drained, so much so that I had to see an energetic healer to have it rectified so I could see the day out.

 What I learnt from that experience is yes, people can dramatically impact your energy where there is an intended viciousness towards you, as was the case here. However, there also needs to be some form of you allowing it in. For me, that moment was accepting her Angel card.

Even in those moments when you are simply having a cup of coffee with a friend and you walk away feeling drained after they have dumped all their problems on you but are not really interested in your advice or in making any real change in their life on some level you have allowed this to occur. You showed up for the coffee date knowing what was to come. You engaged in the conversation and you let it happen, how many times?

The question is, are you ready to make change? Are you ready to be more discerning with your energy especially if you identify as having Empath sensitivities, and are you ready to begin apply Self-love boundaries?

There is a chapter in the book The Celestine Prophecy (this book changed my life) called Control dramas that explains how people engage in energy play to build themselves up or make themselves feel in control which usually comes at a cost to you. The book outlines the distinct ways people unconsciously behave to do this and those common energy draining friends are known as the ‘poor me’s’ of the world. Saying that though, it really comes down to your response to them in them in the moment. 

Firstly, you can choose to be discerning and limit your interactions and time spent with them. You could even take this deeper and explore what this friendship really means for you.

Second, please know that it is Ok to ask them to talk about other things besides the drama in your lives. Drama’s that in all likelihood you’ll still be talking about in six months.  

Certainly, you could ask me ‘Why not just protect yourself energetically? Surely, that’s got to be easier?”

O’k, so yes it may be less confronting and more comfortable for you, though I doubt it will be as effective and does it really teach you to expand into Self Love with long term lasting benefits that are naturally and inherently you?

No I don’t believe it does. Next week’s blog topic is on Energy protection so let’s leave that conversation till then shall we? Cos I know there is much more for me to say on that topic.

For now though, it’s time to take personal responsibility for your energy and make moves to greater empowerment with it and The Empath Survival guide mini-course is how I can help you do that a little more.

with love & gratitude,

Kerrie

Hi, I’m Kerrie Wearing and I am a Spiritual Leader and mentor in the Divine Feminine.

I connect women to their Divine Feminine empowering their sense of self, their creativity and their Mediumship abilities, so they can live a life guided by love, purpose and Spirit.

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